A Conversation with Golden-Globe Nominee David Oyelowo

As a young girl, I can vividly remember one of my favorite uncles always greeting me with: “Hey little Black child!” To which I would smartly retort, “I’m not Black, I’m brown!” He always laughed and picked me up afterwards, much to my frustration, excitement and utter confusion. Such was the struggle of a five-year-old who had yet come to terms with the concept of semantics. But in spite of it all, what was abundantly clear was the amount of love my uncle and I shared. And in the new Blumhouse thriller Don’t Let Go, starring David Oyelowo and Storm Reid, that sentiment is undoubtedly the beautiful undercurrent that steers this psychologically twisted tale.

Shown through an exhilaratingly suspenseful yet understandably confusing lens, what stands out most of all in this film is the loving yet nuanced dynamics of family. Which is a theme Oyelowo admits he was extremely drawn to from the beginning. “I was very just blown away by how much the script packed in. The action, the time travel, the suspense,” the Selma star tells me during our midday chat. “And then in the middle of all of it, is this beautiful and unconventional relationship between an uncle and his niece. And this sort of heart-thumping question of, ‘Is he going to be able to save her?’ I was just really taken with it.”

In Don’t Let Go, the 43-year-old Nigerian English American stars as Detective Jack Radcliff, who gets a shocking phone call from his recently murdered niece Ashley (played by the “emotionally mature and very special” Reid). Working together across time, they race to solve and prevent her murder before it can happen.

In our chat for xoNecole, I talk exclusively with the Golden Globe nominee about his latest project, being a father of four, and why self-sacrifice is paramount in marriage. Check out the highlights below and click here to read the full interview.

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Photo courtesy of: Lacey Terrell/Universal Pictures

On Situations Unfolding Different Than Expected: “Everyday we make judgments based on what’s in front of us. And I can tell you for a fact that if someone I love and lost suddenly called and told me they were calling from a different time plane–I would definitely be skeptical and that’s what was fun to play in the film. You’re watching this character do what I definitely would do and I think most people would do. Where we get to say, “Am I going crazy? What is this? Is someone trying to trick me, is this a prank? Oh my goodness maybe this is real. It is real. How am I going to tell everyone? They’re going to think im crazy” (laughs). You know, I just loved that I got to play the reality of that instead of just the fantasy.”

On How His Outlook Has Changed Since Beginning His Career: “The David now very much recognizes that you have got to really just enjoy the journey and be less focused on the results. I think earlier on in my career, it was all about box office, and the reviews, and accolades, you know–tangible evidence of success. But there’s no way of predicting how any project you do is going to come out. And sometimes there are mitigating factors that you just can’t control. In fact, ALL the time there are mitigating factors you can’t control. And I have in the past allowed those things that I can’t control rob me of the joy and achievement of just getting to be in things and tell stories. Sometimes in the moment you don’t recognize that, especially [in] films and television shows.”

On Love’s Most Common Misconception: “There’s this notion that empowerment, true femininity and masculinity is tied to being able to be self-reliant entirely. And anyone who’s lived on a deserted island for a week will tell you: I just don’t think we’re designed to be alone (laughs). I think we’re designed to rely upon each other. I think we’re designed to be vulnerable with each other. And I truly do believe that we are, we are designed to love in a way that is not just about what I can take, whether it be sexually or financially or, or emotionally. But to give, I think giving is the height of who we are. And that is also something that is in short supply these days.”

On The Missing Element In Marriage: “I’ve been married 21 years next month and my parents were married before my mom passed away, for all of their adult lives. And I know there are reasons why people end up breaking up and all of that, but I feel like in society now, I don’t know that we work as hard as we should to stay together. I think that there’s a misconception that love should always feel like butterflies and be romantic. But there’s an element to love that is work. There is an element that is pure self-sacrifice without the desire to get anything back in return. And if two people are doing that to each other: then you are loving and being loved at the same time. So, I think that the sheer amount of work that needs to go into keeping your family together and keeping a marriage together, is something that we’re losing as a skill.”

 

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